A guy was trying to date me once, after college when I lived in the armpit of the country. There weren’t a lot of options for me there, so I gave him my number. I don’t know why, because the first time he tried to ask me out, he asked if I wanted to watch the UFC fight with him.
I told him I would be out of town, and that, also, I do not watch UFC fights.
He texted me every so often. Mild, flirty innocua (real word? If not, creating it). But I was never really feeling it (hello, his idea of a good first date was FIGHT NIGHT) and I never made any effort to do anything with him.
Then he send me this video. No provocation. No context. No explanation.
THAT is how you get deleted from my phone, my friend.
Why is it not helpful to say “not all men are like that”? For lots of reasons. For one, women know this. They already know not every man is a rapist, or a murderer, or violent. They don’t need you to tell them.
Second, it’s defensive. When people are defensive, they aren’t listening to the other person; they’re busy thinking of ways to defend themselves. I watched this happen on Twitter, over and again.
Third, the people saying it aren’t furthering the conversation, they’re sidetracking it. The discussion isn’t about the men who aren’t a problem. (Though, I’ll note, it can be. I’ll get back to that.) Instead of being defensive and distracting from the topic at hand, try staying quiet for a while and actually listening to what the thousands upon thousands of women discussing this are saying.
Fourth—and this is important, so listen carefully—when a woman is walking down the street, or on a blind date, or, yes, in an elevator alone, she doesn’t know which group you’re in. You might be the potential best guy ever in the history of history, but there’s no way for her to know that. A fraction of men out there are most definitely not in that group. Which are you? Inside your head you know, but outside your head it’s impossible to.
This is the reality women deal with all the time.
Cried like a small child.
Wow. Just wow. Steven Souza saves Jordan Zimmermann’s no hitter. What a day at Nationals Park.
Watched this happen while at the Sox for Konerko’s last game/sobfest. What a time to be alive.
A standing ovation for the captain.
Sobbed during this, tbqh.
Dear Chicago, thanks for allowing me to make so many memories here. I promise you they will always be with me. PK.
I’m gonna be a mess at the game tomorrow.
(Source: sicklater, via fuckyeahwhitesox)
Pakistani teenager Aitzaz Hasan died Monday after tackling a suicide bomber trying to enter his school. By sacrificing himself, he saved the lives of the 2,000 students studying inside. Hasan’s father says, ”My son made his mother cry, but saved hundreds of mothers from crying for their children.”
This is bravery. This is selflessness. This is true courage.
(Source: bachvevo, via jessehimself)
"talking about sexism or racism on Tumblr doesn’t solve anything"
really? because I am absolutely certain that I am a better, less bigoted person than I was a few years ago and that is most certainly due to the people I met and things I read on Tumblr
perhaps it doesn’t…
This is true for me, too.
..steady my breathing
I have to have you now
wired and I’m tired
think I’ll sleep in my clothes on the floor
Or maybe this mattress will spin on its axis
and find me on yours
I love this.
(Source: thislovebug / Yara Y. Ahmed, via highbrouw)